Research shows that when people smile, they appear to be more attractive. A smile is indicative of emotion we’re all familiar with, that is happiness.
So what is it about happiness that can literally alter someone’s decision to approach versus not at a bar?
We all would like to be more attractive and happier— unfortunately, we can only really change one of those things.
Of course, you can dress better, put on makeup (for women), and get into better shape—these things help enhance your physical appearance, but how attractive you are to someone can change based on internal factors such as confidence, wisdom, and kindness.
In this article, you’re going to find out exactly why becoming happier can become your best weapon—especially as it pertains to attraction.
Happier People are More Approachable
Imagine you’re standing in an elevator and two people enter. One is looking down with a frown and looks as if someone just fired them from work. The other person is smiling and relaxed. Who would you rather strike a conversation with?
People that appear happier are usually more approachable because they seem more energetic, receptive to conversation, and inquisitive about their environments.
We all have bad days where the last thing we want to do is have small talk in the elevator. But when we’re in a bright mood, conversations appear far more attractive.
A stranger is more likely to get a positive response from a happy person, therefore, they are more likely to approach them. A conversation can further spur someone’s attraction to the other person.
Happier People Influence Others to Feel Happier
When you’re around someone with higher levels of happiness, you often feel calmer and energized by their presence.
When you’re in a better mood, most things are more appealing—whether that’s food, drink, the environment, or other human beings. We’re more tolerant even when things aren’t 100% perfect.
The negative effect takes place when we’re in a suboptimal mood: everything in our environment is that much more likely to tick us off.
This is why being around happier people can shift the whole mood of the room, putting us in better spirits, and more receptive to other people’s energy.
Happier People are More Resilient
As I mentioned, we can be attracted to personality attributes, as much as to appearance. Some people are attracted to intelligence, others to empathy and kindness. Most are attracted to people who have resiliency and have had in-depth experiences in life.
No one likes going out with an airhead. The thing is, it’s hard to tell if someone is resilient unless they tell us a story about themselves. Therefore, the next closest indication we can get is by their state of emotions.
According to research, levels of happiness are partly influenced by genetics—meaning some people are born naturally happier. But most of the time, happiness is something that’s worked for and accumulated over time. Like a habit.
I’ve met and spoken to champions that have overcome unfortunate life events, but are still very happy and grateful people. People who have endured hard times and managed to make it out, tend to develop a special kind of resiliency. At the end of the day, happy people are able to regulate their emotions around both positive and negative stimuli; they don’t let one adverse event get them into a depressive spiral.
Therefore, a happy person is more likely to be more resilient. And resiliency tends to be an attractive trait.
Conclusion
Most people don’t correlate attractiveness and happiness together. Knowing what we know now about the powerful effects of happiness, we can all be a little more motivated to in practice small habits that help us become happier beings. You can read more about how to do that here in “7 Habits that Make you Happier”.
Next time you feel self-conscious at an event or on a date, remember, that your greatest attraction weapon is simply a smile.
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